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You don't have to wait until your marriage is falling apart to want something more.
Maybe you want to feel closer to your spouse. Maybe sex has become complicated or pressured. Maybe you keep having the same conversations without getting anywhere. Or maybe your marriage is good, and you know there's still more connection, honesty, play, and intimacy available to you.
I work with couples and individuals who want to understand their patterns, communicate more honestly, create a healthier relationship with desire and intimacy, and intentionally choose the kind of marriage they want to create.
Not sure whether couples or individual coaching is the best place to start? That's okay. We'll figure it out together.
Couples Coaching
You love each other. Now let's work on the patterns that keep getting in the way.
Couples coaching is for couples who want more connection, honesty, intimacy, and fun in their marriage. You don't have to be in crisis, and you don't have to agree on everything before you begin. You just need to be willing to look at what's happening between you and what each of you is bringing to the relationship.
Maybe you keep having the same argument. Maybe one of you wants more physical intimacy while the other feels pressure around sex. Maybe you're great friends and partners in life, but somewhere along the way you've lost some of the flirting, play, desire, or feeling of being lovers.
Or maybe things are actually pretty good, and you both know they could be even better.
In couples coaching, we may work on:
Communicating honestly without attacking, withdrawing, or trying to manage each other's reactions.
Understanding spontaneous and responsive desire and how each of you approaches intimacy differently.
Creating emotional and physical intimacy without pressure, obligation, or keeping score.
Learning to express what you want clearly instead of waiting for your spouse to figure it out.
Recognizing the patterns that keep creating the same conflict.
Bringing more friendship, flirting, play, curiosity, and fun back into your marriage.
Taking responsibility for the person each of you brings to the relationship instead of trying to fix one another.
Simple, Flexible Coaching
$150 per 60-minute session
No package or long-term commitment required.. We can meet once to work through something specific, or continue coaching for as long as it feels useful. Many couples choose to meet regularly while they're working on a particular area and then space sessions out as things begin to shift.
Not sure you're ready to schedule a full session?
Coaching That Meets You Where You Are
$150 per 60-minute session
Bring the question, frustration, pattern, or place where you're feeling stuck, and we'll start there.
No package or long-term commitment required.
Individual Coaching
You don't need your spouse to participate in order to create change in your relationship.
Sometimes the best place to start is with you.
Individual coaching gives you a place to look honestly at your own patterns, reactions, desires, boundaries, and choices without making your spouse the problem or taking responsibility for things that aren't yours.
Maybe you're tired of having the same reaction every time conflict comes up. Maybe you struggle to ask for what you actually want. Maybe intimacy brings up pressure, resentment, insecurity, or confusion. Or maybe you simply want to understand yourself better and become more intentional about the person you bring to your marriage.
Individual coaching can help you:
Understand the patterns you keep getting pulled into.
Communicate what you want more clearly and honestly.
Explore your relationship with desire, sex, and intimacy.
Build more confidence around asking, inviting, and receiving.
Recognize what belongs to you and what belongs to your spouse.
Respond with more intention instead of reacting from old habits.
Create meaningful change without waiting for someone else to go first.
You can't control what your spouse chooses. But you have a lot of power in what you choose to bring to your relationship.
Want to talk first and see if coaching feels like a good fit?
Want to Grow Together in a Group?
Choose Each Other: 12-Week Couples Cohort
Sometimes you want more than a coaching session here and there. You want structure, tools, conversations to have together, and a group of couples who are intentionally working on their marriages too.
Choose Each Other is my 12-week couples experience designed to help you move beyond simply managing life together and create more connection, friendship, honesty, play, and intimacy in your marriage.