What Is Responsive Desire and Is It Normal?
Do you enjoy sex once it starts but rarely think about it beforehand? You may experience responsive desire. Learn what responsive desire is, how it differs from spontaneous desire and why needing time for desire to wake up doesn't mean something is wrong.
The Desire Gap: What to Do When One Spouse Wants Sex More Than the Other
When one spouse seems to want sex more often than the other, it's easy to label yourselves “higher desire” and “lower desire.” But what if neither of you is the problem? Understanding spontaneous and responsive desire can help you stop ranking your differences and start understanding how desire actually works for each of you.
When Sex Feels Like a Chore: How to Move From Duty Back to Desire
When sex starts feeling like another thing on the to-do list, trying harder to want it usually isn’t the answer. Let’s look at how duty, pressure, responsive desire and the need to be a “good” spouse can quietly take over intimacy, and how curiosity, choice and play can help you find your way back to desire.
How to Initiate Sex Without Making Your Spouse Feel Pressured
Learn how to initiate sex without creating pressure, handle rejection differently, and make intimate invitations that leave room for genuine choice and desire.
Responsive Desire: Why You May Not Want Sex Until You’ve Already Started
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why don’t I want sex until we’re already getting started?” there may be absolutely nothing unusual about your desire. You may simply experience responsive desire.