How to Build Sexual Anticipation Without Creating Pressure
Sexual anticipation can be exciting, but it can quickly turn into pressure when flirting starts to feel like a promise. Learn how to create a playful simmer, make room for responsive desire and build anticipation without deciding where intimacy has to end.
Thinking During Sex vs. Feeling During Sex: How to Get Out of Your Head
Do you find yourself thinking, monitoring or worrying during sex instead of actually experiencing it? Learn how to move out of performance mode, reconnect with physical sensation and become more present during intimacy.
How to Talk About Sex With Your Spouse Without Starting a Fight
Talking about sex with your spouse can quickly turn into defensiveness, pressure or another argument. Learn how curiosity, timing, honesty and personal responsibility can help you have better conversations about intimacy without trying to make either spouse the problem.
The Desire Gap: What to Do When One Spouse Wants Sex More Than the Other
When one spouse seems to want sex more often than the other, it's easy to label yourselves “higher desire” and “lower desire.” But what if neither of you is the problem? Understanding spontaneous and responsive desire can help you stop ranking your differences and start understanding how desire actually works for each of you.
When Sex Feels Like a Chore: How to Move From Duty Back to Desire
When sex starts feeling like another thing on the to-do list, trying harder to want it usually isn’t the answer. Let’s look at how duty, pressure, responsive desire and the need to be a “good” spouse can quietly take over intimacy, and how curiosity, choice and play can help you find your way back to desire.
How to Initiate Sex Without Making Your Spouse Feel Pressured
Learn how to initiate sex without creating pressure, handle rejection differently, and make intimate invitations that leave room for genuine choice and desire.