Thinking During Sex vs. Feeling During Sex: How to Get Out of Your Head
Do you find yourself thinking, monitoring or worrying during sex instead of actually experiencing it? Learn how to move out of performance mode, reconnect with physical sensation and become more present during intimacy.
“No” Doesn’t Have to Mean Rejection: Creating Better Invitations for Intimacy
When your spouse says no to sex, it can be easy to hear “I don’t want you.” But a no to physical intimacy doesn’t have to become rejection. Learn how to create honest invitations, handle disappointment and make room for both desire and choice in your marriage.
The Desire Gap: What to Do When One Spouse Wants Sex More Than the Other
When one spouse seems to want sex more often than the other, it's easy to label yourselves “higher desire” and “lower desire.” But what if neither of you is the problem? Understanding spontaneous and responsive desire can help you stop ranking your differences and start understanding how desire actually works for each of you.
When Sex Feels Like a Chore: How to Move From Duty Back to Desire
When sex starts feeling like another thing on the to-do list, trying harder to want it usually isn’t the answer. Let’s look at how duty, pressure, responsive desire and the need to be a “good” spouse can quietly take over intimacy, and how curiosity, choice and play can help you find your way back to desire.